vhost-user: fix VirtQ notifier cleanup

vhost-user: fix VirtQ notifier cleanup

When vhost-user device cleanup, remove notifier MR and munmaps notifier
address in the event-handling thread, VM CPU thread writing the notifier
in concurrent fails with an error of accessing invalid address. It
happens because MR is still being referenced and accessed in another
thread while the underlying notifier mmap address is being freed and
becomes invalid.

This patch calls RCU and munmap notifiers in the callback after the
memory flatview update finish.

Fixes: 44866521bd6e ("vhost-user: support registering external host notifiers")
Cc: qemu-stable@nongnu.org
Signed-off-by: Xueming Li <xuemingl@nvidia.com>
Message-Id: <20220207071929.527149-3-xuemingl@nvidia.com>
Reviewed-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@redhat.com>