refs: split `ref_cache` code into separate files

refs: split `ref_cache` code into separate files

The `ref_cache` code is currently too tightly coupled to
`files-backend`, making the code harder to understand and making it
awkward for new code to use `ref_cache` (as we indeed have planned).
Start loosening that coupling by splitting `ref_cache` into a separate
module.

This commit moves code, adds declarations, and changes the visibility
of some functions, but doesn't change any code.

The modules are still too tightly coupled, but the situation will be
improved in subsequent commits.

Signed-off-by: Michael Haggerty <mhagger@alum.mit.edu>
Signed-off-by: Junio C Hamano <gitster@pobox.com>