Repair some issues with column aliases and RowExpr construction in the

Repair some issues with column aliases and RowExpr construction in the
presence of dropped columns.  Document the already-presumed fact that
eref aliases in relation RTEs are supposed to have entries for dropped
columns; cause the user alias structs to have such entries too, so that
there's always a one-to-one mapping to the underlying physical attnums.
Adjust expandRTE() and related code to handle the case where a column
that is part of a JOIN has been dropped.  Generalize expandRTE()'s API
so that it can be used in a couple of places that formerly rolled their
own implementation of the same logic.  Fix ruleutils.c to suppress
display of aliases for columns that were dropped since the rule was made.