pthread_frame: do not run hwaccel decoding asynchronously unless it's safe

pthread_frame: do not run hwaccel decoding asynchronously unless it's safe

Certain hardware decoding APIs are not guaranteed to be thread-safe, so
having the user access decoded hardware surfaces while the decoder is
running in another thread can cause failures (this is mainly known to
happen with DXVA2).

For such hwaccels, only allow the decoding thread to run while the user
is inside a lavc decode call (avcodec_send_packet/receive_frame).