update INSTALL file with new information and better advice

update INSTALL file with new information and better advice

the text covering an ill-advised procedure for 'bootstrapping' a new
musl-based system in-place is removed. new information on targets and
compilers is added. formatting improved. the remaining text is
adjusted to cover both usage with musl-gcc on a non-musl-based system
and upgrading a musl-based system or toolchain.